Hello Everyone. It has been a while and I know everyone is expecting this post to be about my ongoing story but I’m so sorry to let you know that the story would come once in a week due to my busy schedule. I hope you understand
I used to be someone that really cared about what impression people had about me. I know they say first impression matters a lot but not when you live your life based on what people think about you or what they feel you should be. I was building myself to be the kind of person the society wanted me to be. it was like I started living life based on people’s terms and condition. I was trapped in my own body and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. I was practically doing everything to please people. which put my esteem in so much danger.
I was trying to do it the way A wanted me to and at the same time, I was also trying to do it the way B wanted me to. I was trying so hard to please everyone. if I wanted my hair to be in a certain and A didn’t want my hair to be that way, that was it. I was ready to go any length to please anybody as far as it made them happy even at the expense of my happiness.
I sought validation in people, so my happiness/sadness depended on people. I could keep talking on how I sought my validation in people but let me stop here.
I am glad it got to a point in my life where I decided to stop letting the thought of people get to me. when I said enough was enough. Jesus didn’t die on the cross for me to live my life to please people but to live my life to please him and honor him.
I cut a whole lot of people out of my life. I focused on being the best I could be not for anybody but for myself.
I made decisions that made me happy. I didn’t wait for anyone to tell me do this before did it. I made my esteem independent. It wasn’t based on nobody anymore. It was solely based on God and my happiness.
I built healthy relationships. I got acquainted with people who would make me a better person.
Gradually, with time I began to have God get a say in my life and everything started becoming fine and God became the master planner of my life. All I did was to follow him and obey him and in turn, things began to work out for my good.
I ask you this morning, WHERE DO YOU SEEK YOUR VALIDATION FROM?